They will have no patience for extreme deviation from this basic rule. If it were working under the present conditions, I'd let it slide, but when our society is pressuring conformity without logical reasoning, then it's time to change. ENFJs should understand that ESTJs value competency, structure, and consistency, so do not take their advice as criticism and do not ask them to compromise their ethical code without providing good reasoning. Sexually, the ESTJ is likely to be robust, enthusiastic, and athletic. Since they are social creatures, they're likely to bring an emphasis on socializing to the relationship - but only after all of their work is done. Spammers will be fried and served on toast. They may need to work on relaxing control and opening the lines of communication.
Their partners will appreciate and enjoy the benefits of the ESTJ's efforts in this respect, but they may also resent the more controlling aspects of the ESTJ's personality, which goes along with their strong desire to shield their loved-ones.
ENFJ and ESTJ – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
I am especially drawn to ESTJ's however. Her strengths are your weaknesses. Especially when the INFP is not aware of personality types, he or she will not understand why you care about 'all the little rules' and why you're commanding and trying to fix the people around you. She helps me to sort out my thoughts and has given me the courage to step out of the ESTJ box. I have dated quite a bit and women love me because I am smart, organized, have my life completely in order, have been in a great job for a long time and generally have my stuff together. Was there any difficulties with the personality in this area? They will also have little patience with the unstructured, "go with the flow" attitude of their Perceiving children.